Nudge Caregivers to Rest

It’s usually the caregivers who prompt patients to rest. But there are good reasons to switch roles.

Caregivers are so busy taking care of the patient, they often forget to take care of their own needs, says Cyndy Ulreich, a certified oncology nurse practitioner at Henry Ford Cancer.

“I don’t think caregivers understand how much the patient or survivor wants them to take care of themselves,” she says. “Patients want their caregivers to have a good life. They feel better knowing their caregivers are caring for themselves.”

Physical and emotional issues

Caregivers have been known to suffer with undiagnosed or uncontrolled health conditions such as diabetes.

During stressful times or unusual world events, many people may lose perspective, feel anxious or cry more easily. Others get aggressive and demanding. Anxiety can raise stress chemicals, increasing blood pressure, muscle tension and pain perception. It can take a lot of energy to calm caregivers, Cyndy says. Worse, if a patient feels suffocated by doting or overbearing caregivers, that can slow the healing process.

Kindness is key

Kindness can reduce stress levels and increase a sense of well-being. Kindness – given and received – endears caregivers to patients. “I’ve seen decreased stress in people who encourage their caregivers to practice self-care,” says Cyndy, who has been a cancer caregiver for her own family members.

Give caregivers a nudge to rest or take time for self-care, especially during your cancer treatments.

Show gratitude. A pat on the hand, a look in the eye, a word of encouragement from the patient – it all helps. “Tell your caregivers, ‘I know this is hard on you, too. I appreciate everything you’re doing for me,’” Cyndy says.

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To avoid feeling “caregiver burnout,” try doing the following:

• Increase strength, confidence and peace. Try yoga, dancing, drawing, listening to music, telling jokes, singing, praying, journaling, eating veggies, drinking more water, getting massages, taking your medicine or smiling anyway.
• Say “yes” to friends and family. Accept offers for help and visits. During visits, excuse yourself for a short walk or time alone.
• Connect! Get advice from others in support networks, ask questions and express your feelings. They’re on the same survival route.